Last Wednesday, it was my birthday. This would make our 8th year celebrating my birthday (my husband and I). As my birthday approached, we would discuss what we were going to do for my birthday. My best friend wanted to get together so I was also trying to plan a date for that. It seemed that as I planned the date with my best friend that my husband thought he rated second in my birthday celebration. So, I made special plans to keep today open for him.
Now, mind you, he has NEVER planned anything for my birthday without my assistance. But, I left this day open to see what he would do. I even told him that.
Well, here it is Saturday morning and guess what!?!
He has no plans for us for tonight!
Like I didn’t see that one coming.
This morning, I am getting ready while he is in the shower and we are talking about what weekend I can plan to hang out with my best friend, Lisa.
I say “What weekend are you going to be at your class?”
He says “March 31st, why?”
I say “I am going to see if Lisa is free that weekend so that we aren’t gone different weekends”
He says “So you can meet up for lunch”
And I say “No, we are spending the evening together”
And he gets mad?!? He doesn’t say anything which is how I know he is mad.
“I am spending the evening with her like you spend the evening with your friends every Friday night. Do I get invited, no! Like Valentine’s weekend, you went to the gun bash with your friends, alone. So, I am going alone. What is the big deal anyway? This is your weekend to spend with me doing something and what did you plan, nothing.”
He could tell that I was getting angry so he quit talking.
The less he said the more MAD I got.
I could tell that he was trying to think of a creative way to apologize without apologizing and then make up for the lack of plans but he was walking on thin ice.
He started playing with the baby. He walked into the bathroom and said to himself “Now, what did I come in here for”
Umm, clearly to talk to me. Lol!
Well, prior to him leaving, he sits down beside me while I am feeding the baby and starts talking about the NCAA tournament. Of course that will get me talking.
Ever so elegantly, he slides in there with
“We can do whatever you want tonight. I can cook steaks on the grill and we could snuggle and watch our shows. Anything you want.”
And I smile and say “ok, that’s fine”
When I really want to say, did you not listen to this discussion? The point is, I want you to plan. It is my birthday. And I am still going out alone with Lisa!