Being the Best YOU Possible

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It has been a couple days (ok, quite a few days) since I last blogged. In that time, my life was in a state of less organized chaos (more than typical). I had many gatherings and baby/bridal showers with friends, extra curriculars with the kids and of course, work drama (budget season)!! Some good-others not so much but in this time I got to thinking. Kind of like a personal inventory with strengths and weaknesses. And then I started wondering, do other people do this? Do other (normal) people continue in a state of self-improvement (consciously) throughout their life trying to achieve self-actualization as Goldstein or Maslow suggested?

It seems like I know a fair number of people who do not. They seem stunted in being who they are/what they know and refuse to go outside of that both in thought or deed. People who just are what they are or are not and are perfectly content with that both professionally or personally. Why is that? I just don’t get it!?!

Sometimes I get overwhelmed with the vast amount of knowledge about stuff that I don’t have, or the things I want to do or learn that I don’t have time for and become paralyzed. Is that where these people listed above are? It seems to me as though they are more likely blissfully oblivious.

I can tell you, my head spins at all I want to accomplish and learn. Not saying (in this area) that perfection is my drive but just the satisfaction of knowing that I can do it!

I know a lot of people who are better at everything that I do than myself but I have my own strengths and I am satisfied with that. But, if you don’t try new things how do you know that they can’t be another strength of yours?

It is my opinion that this is how you develop into the best possible person. Constantly growing and changing- learning and trying.

Thank God that I am not the parent now that I was with my first child because I would have had a mental breakdown with three. But without the last five years of growth (trial and error), I wouldn’t have developed into the parent I am now.

Nothing changes if nothing changes.

Imagine living the rest of your life like it is today. What are the things that you would miss? What growth opportunities, and losses that will mold you into the person that you will become?

To me, that’s what life is about.

Self-actualization.

Being the BEST possible You!

“I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance.” Garth Brooks

What can you do today to work towards the best possible you?
In parenting?
In your marriage?
In your friendships?
At work?

Whatever is important to you. Dream it and Achieve it!

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Sports: When should kids play

Let me set the stage here.  I am a very competitive, sports minded mother.  When I found out that I was going to be having three boys, I was very excited about the potential sports that they would play.  I could not wait to see them play all kinds of sports.  However, since then, they have grown up and are now actually playing.

Last year, Brady played AYSO.  All of the kids were his age and about the same skill set so I didn’t really worry about his safety.  My husband and I were his coaches so I was more in control.

He is signed up to play AYSO again this year.  But, he also wanted to play coach picth baseball.  All of the mothers I talked to said, only one sport per season but I wanted him to be able to choose next year and how could he choose if he didn’t play baseball.  So for one season (both the other two boys are still too small for sports) I said yes.

Then, practice started.

Last night was the first practice.  It has been a beautiful end of winter/beginning of spring this year with 70 degree weather.  But, of course, the weather last night was freezing.  We get to the field and the first coach gets out of his car and lights up a cigarette in front of the kids.  Strike one!

The second coach comes and gets the kids started.  No introductions-just looks over the kids he knows and points at the kids he doesn’t and states “What is your name?”.  My son doesn’t respond to the first questions because it is not clear who he is asking but does the second time that is name is Brady.  At no point did the coaches introduce themselved to my son or to us (his parents).  How can you listen to a coach(es) that you don’t even know their names?!  Strike two!

No running, no stretching, they just get started.  The coach grunts for each of them to get to a place on the field–and at this time he forgets my sons name.  Of course, this is an issue.  How can you holler, Ball, Brady or Duck, Brady when the ball is coming for him and he is not paying attention (he is 5 years old) when you can’t remember his name?!!  Strike three!

They field some balls–teaching no fundamentals–(Brady and the other new kid get one chance to field a ball while the others get multiple balls).  They bat.  Now, they did work with him more at bat but the coach couldn’t get the ball across the plate (what?!!)  He was able to hit balls as we have worked with him on the fundamentals of baseball but not the point.

I am not the first one to beat up on coaches because they are volunteers and I am a volunteer coach for AYSO but maybe you should not coach if you have no skills with kids or baseball.

Also, when Brady signed up for coach pitch, I was under the impression that it was all kids his age swinging and missing and running the wrong way around the bases.  Nope–this is hard core.  Other players are yelling what the heck to the more seasoned players who are missing balls or striking out.  These kids are in third grade–one tried out for Little League and didn’t make it so he is playing with my son who has never even played before.  Not cool!!  Strike four?!!

The coach did let them go about 30 mintues early since it was freezing which just might be the only positive from the night.

I walk over to the field to get Brady and he is coming towards me crying.  I wanted to hear when the next practice was as the coach was telling the kids–never did he tell the parents?!  I had to ask another kid about practice.  I was concerned about Brady.  He was crying and very upset so I asked him what was wrong and he says that his hands were freezing.  I asked him why he didn’t put on his gloves and he continued to cry and state that he was afraid that he would get in trouble.  Strike five!?!

At this point, I am second guessing keeping him playing baseball.  I don’t want him to get the quiting message as I want him to stick things out but this is crazy.  Plus, I want him to learn baseball and make a decision about the sport itself and not the insufficient coaching staff.  He did state that he liked playing if his hands would have been warmer.

What do I do?  Keep him in, sign him out, complain, work with him more myself?

Help!?!

Sports:  When should kids play?  Should this be my Strike six?

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Weekly Photo Challenge: Through

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The Christmas party ‘through’ the mirror!!

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Pinterest and Copyright Laws

I love Pinterest!! I could spend all kinds of time posting pins and reviewing pins. As a matter of fact, when I was getting up through the middle of the night with my baby, I would find myself spending an additional 15 minutes looking at new pins on Pinterest. I was definitely addicted. However, since then, I haven’t spent as much time due to my concerns regarding copyright laws. I had been planning to talk about this previously but have been dragging my feet. My final motivation was an email from Pinterest discussing changes with their terms.

So, what are the legalities of Pinterest and all other similar sites?

Here are some useful links to help you understand the rules.

1. U.S. Copyright Office Fair Use Rules

2. ‘Pinterest’ Wades In Murky Copyright Waters-NPR

3. http://www.prnewsonline.com/free/Stress-Free-Pinning-The-Ins-and-Outs-of-Fair-Use-and-Pinterest_16208.html

Hopefully, Pinterest can work out some of their copyright issues so that we can pin happily ever after. Just remember, as discussed in the third article, comment on each pin and this may help keep issues at bay.

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Don’t Call ME cuz I won’t call you back!!

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Technology! I am currently at a training about this very topic that has been very useful!! Maybe, it is the reason for this post in its entirety!

In many ways, I am not your typically millennial but in the way of communication, I am very much a millennial!

I love all of my friends and family, even some people that are not my friends and family BUT……….

Here it comes,

I CAN’T take the phone calls!! I hate talking on the phone! I hate listening to voicemail and I really hate returning phone calls.

But let me redeem myself-

This is part of my job (which I also do as little as possible with). Because I am busy, the chances of you catching me at an ideal time to talk on the phone are nil. Which means, I will have to either call you back or listen to your voicemail or worse yet, both!

I am a little OCD which means that in order for me to call you back, I have to have enough time to talk with you regarding all of the things that you may ever want to discuss (even if I have no reason to believe that you might want to discuss them) and I most certainly cannot tell you that I have to go or set boundaries to the call. Because of these nuances, clearly I can almost never call back.

The more you nag me about not calling you back, the more likely I am to not answer in the future. I can’t tell you why. It’s just the way it happens.

As I stated above, I am a millennial in this area. Let’s communicate in the easiest, quickest way possible- text me or Facebook me!

I know that not all people have access or desire to converse by cell phone (texting and such). And that certainly is their right but it is also my right not to converse via conversations on the phone.

There are a few exceptions to this rule-my grandmother and my immediate family that I talk to daily. The reason- my grandmother only calls for predictable reasons so I will follow up with her as time allows, and my immediate family are used to me so I can tell them-can’t talk now so call me later.

Again, I love my family I just can’t take another phone call or message nagging at me on my phone.

If you have an issue with this blog, text me!

Tell me your thoughts on phone calls and voicemail!!

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Weekly Photo Challenge: Unusual

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Unusual is spring/summer weather in PA in March!! Look how gorgeous it looks! No snow anywhere!!

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Organic Gardening: A layman’s overview

Gardening has always be an interest of mine.  Recently, gardening has become more of a passion.  The more I learn about it the more I want to learn.  I decided while I was pregnant that I was going to have a huge garden (or at least huge for me) since I would be making baby food around that time.  I had been gardening for the past couple of years myself but have been active in others’ gardens throughout most of my life.  I made baby food for my 2 year old but I bought the vegetables that I didn’t have in my pantry.  At that point, my pantry was small and my garden did not have many of the vegetables that we have grown to love.

I never thought I would be making my own baby food but when I started it also became a passion.  I tried to watch what I used to make the baby food and started experimenting with other vegetables.  It was really this process that got my organic gardening thoughts churning.

I had a lot to learn.  I still have a lot to learn and I am now sharing that journey with you.  I am certainly no expert and hope to get lots of feedback on this topic from ‘real’ gardeners.

But here goes:

The main point of organic gardening is to work in harmony with the ecosystem understanding the role of each player to get the best possible results.

As you are developing your garden, keep in mind the goal of working in harmony.  Create the garden so that birds, insects and other animals control the pests.  In this, it is important to understand which are good insects and which are the pests.  Work with your garden.  See year to year what problems you are having and then adapt to that for the next year.  Organic gardening is a work in progress not a solution.

When gardening organically, the soil is very important.  In regular gardens, gardeners can overcome soil issues with fertilizer.  In an Organic Garden, this is not as much the case.  Some adaptations can be made but we need to consider the environment, staying away from artificial fertilizers all together.

A very popular and sustainable way to fertilize your organic garden is composting.  Composting has many benefits not limited to increasing fertilization of the soil.  You can also use animal manures (grass fed), mushroom compost, leaf mold or prunings which are cut up.

This is my first year in composting.  Previously, I haven’t had the need to compost as my soil was very fertile.  My garden was in an area beside a river bank where it would stay damp.  Not damp enough to rot but damp enough to produce perfect crops with minimal interventions.

This year, I relocated and needed to move my garden.  Since I have a dog who roams my yard (a lab), I wanted to put my garden on a hill behind my house where my dog can’t get to without someone taking her there.

Due to these changes, I am going to set up rain barrels and will be starting to compost.

You also want to make sure that your plants are organic and are not genetically motified cultivars.

Genetically motified cultivars are plants that were genetically altered to live in less than idea enviroments, to live through certain blights or illnesses and to resist certain insects.  These genetically motified cultivars carry some environmental risks including interupting the ecosystem.  Some of the variances are in herbicide resistance but it is unclear how things of this nature can impact the soil and plant associated microbial  communities and from there the impact that may have overall.

Again, we are trying to work with the ecosystem understanding that everything has its place and to throw off one part is to throw off other parts.

These layman’s posts on organic gardening will carry you with me on my journey of gaining knowledge and developing my organic gardening skills throughout this gardening season and into the next.

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