Making the Move!!

 

I am finally making the move!

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I have been blogging, albeit once per year, but blogging no less…..since 2012.  At that time, I had lots on my hands.  Two new babies and one child starting school.  I haven’t been able to dedicate much time to the blog but I want/need to change that.  This year, an item on my bucket list was to blog more regularly.  So, I decided to make the move to a new self-hosted site, www.organizedlifeofadisorganizedmother.com.  The site isn’t perfect yet but I have been working on it and learning.  The goal of this blog is to capture experiences and memories along the way and share those with my family and friends.

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Please check out the new site!  If you are a wordpress follower, please sign up again on my new page to make sure that you get email updates of blog posts which you won’t get unless you sign up again.  I love all of the feedback I get from everyone-both positive and constructive!!  Please continue as I grow yet another baby!  And be patient with me through any growing pains!!

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Life begins…….

Life begins when a person first realizes how soon it will end.  Marcelene Cox

How true!  I have been faced with some pretty serious situations recently that have got me thinking.  And thinking is never really a good thing for a Disorganized Mother!

Parenting three children while working full-time and beginning a homestead is very challenging.  It is a detailed balancing act.  This is really perfect for me because I like living on the edge.  But I have to watch because sometimes I start to teeter over the edge-which is NEVER good.  Balance is the buzzword of the year for many of my friends and colleagues.  I like to watch what others are doing and how that does or does not apply to me.  Over the seven (almost eight) years of parenting that I have under my belt, I have gained so many skills in this area but can’t we all learn a little more.  My challenge is that I like to learn about everything and strive to master it (or at least be able to do it well) which gets me involved in more and more with less and less time.  What this also does is allows me to decide what stays in my life and what I must toss out to make room for something more important or new, depending. 

Continuing to enrich my life and my relationships. 

Challenging me to look at the pros and cons of everything and what I want for the overview of my life.

 Well, facing mortality challenges this.  Seeing people on the cusp of death helps to focus otherwise blurry areas of your life. 

Faith, Family and Friends are my list of priorities but using this as my compass is sometimes challenging.  This starts for me with organizing my day by these first.  But requires a daily morning refocusing session and many mini-refocusing sessions throughout the day. 

Once you realize how soon life can end, it opens your eyes to what truly matters.  Weeding out the less important and making room for the flowers of what truly matters.  In a life of chaos, heading toward the REAL true north is even more important as it is easy to get swept away in the tides of minutia. 

What is your REAL true north? 

 

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Women’s Rights: Agree and Disagree as One

Loved this Bone of Contention!! Please, please, please, click the click here button to read Likeitiz’s original article on Women’s Right!! Such a great, well written article!! Love to see women uniting through blogging on personal issues regardless of their stance!!

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I’ve been thinking about Michelle W.’s Daily Prompt: Bone of Contention a few days ago.  I feel passionate about a lot of issues and challenges. But not too long ago, I’ve written a post on something that has gotten me all riled up that although things have come a long way, we still have a long way to go.  Click here to see the post.  Don’t forget to watch the video.

 

 

 

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Parenting: Daycare- to do or not to do? Daily Prompt- Bone of Contention

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Daily Prompt: Bone of Contention
Pick a contentious issue about which you care deeply — it could be the same-sex marriage debate, or just a disagreement you’re having with a friend. Write a post defending the opposite position, and then reflect on what it was like to do that.

Other side:

Daycare: I can’t imagine sending my children to daycare. Why, you ask? Because isn’t parenting the reason people have children. How could you birth a child and then pay someone else to parent them for most of their lives (daycare, school, etc.). A working parent barely spends any time with their children and would not possibly be able to do their job as a parent in the limited time they would have with their children. A parent, by continuing to work, is choosing their career over their children which is VERY selfish. If your plan was to continue to work, why would you have children? How could you let someone you barely know instill all of your children’s morals and values? With all of the horrible things that you hear about children and daycare (molestation, safety issues, etc.), how could you let your children be raised in this way? What is more important than your children and their future? Money, careers, etc?? Your children are only young once. If you choose to parent children, then you should be the one raising them and caring for them exclusively throughout their life.

My side:
I disagree. As a product of a working mother, I was raised fine. My mother was always a strong presence in my life and was a very active and involved parent. The old African proverb, It takes a Village to raise a child, is so true. I am a very involved parent. As a working mother, I vowed to make sure that my children aren’t suffering in any way and I feel that they aren’t. My parents and in-laws are also very involved. Not that they watch my kids all the time. They see my kids all of the time-with me there as well. We visit-have play dates, if you will. I also believe that my babysitter, Karen, and my daycare, The Learning Ladder, are the best possible places for my children. Both places have morals and values similar to my own and therefore reinforce what I am trying to teach my kids. My kids also get to socialize with other kids and adults in a very healthy and developmentally appropriate way. As my children grow older, I am not going to be the only person interacting with my kids and therefore this experience will be very beneficial for them in the future as well. There is a difference in quality and quantity time. My time is quality time with my kids even when it is not quantity time. And I have seen more than my fair share of SAHM’s that aren’t spending any quality time with their children. Being home doesn’t make you a good parent. Being present does!

Reflection:
This is a very heated topic for me as I feel that those on the other side typically have a VERY biased opinion. Because they are doing it, it is the only RIGHT way. Plus, again very biased, are unable to critique their own parenting weaknesses just because the are making the “ultimate sacrifice”. Or the SAHM has no or minimal job skills which they then use as a cop out-I am a SAHM which really means- I can’t find or get any kind of gainful employment so I will claim this as a choice. As I was writing this, I can see some merits in staying at home but I can also see some merits in not. I am teaching my boys that work is important. You want to find a job that you love and do it to the best of your abilities. You want to care about the world and help others make their lives better. (I am a social worker) I am teaching them about balance and priorities. I am teaching them how to work together with others to achieve a common goal. I am teaching them how to love. Writing this helps to reaffirm my point, a good parent is a present parent-regardless of the amount of hours together. Quality over quantity. Every time!!

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One year later….. Almost

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Blogging!! I love the idea of blogging!! I have opinions and like to talk (write) about them so blogging….perfect!! BUT….of course there is a but!! Disorganization is not a good trait to have when you are a mother of three boys under the age of six with a full time job and a reading/running/sewing fetish!! Time is of the essence!!

It is almost one year since my last post and I just wanted to catch you up on what I have been up to.

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1. Garden
Well, the garden tanked. Who knew that having a 5 year old, a 2 year old and a 6 month old would make carrying plants (and by plants I mean an entire garden) back and forth from the garage to the outside and back daily while trying to load up the car and get to work on time would be a problem!?! My worm compost also didn’t make it. Brady and I found approximately 10 worms to start and made them a nice home in my compost bin and then the sun came out! Now the worms are rubber!! Not really helpful!!
2. Canning
No garden, no veggies, no canning!!
But my parents canned and supplied me with much of my current winter stock!!
3. Birthdays
Great themed birthdays this year!!
Carson- Sesame Street

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Brady- Ghostbusters

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Piers- 1st Birthday Dots of Fun

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4. Sewing
Made so many things!!
A Thomas the Train bedding set (pillow, top sheet, comforter and bed sheet)

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A beach blanket quilt that folds into a bag
Swim diapers-turned out great!! Too cute!!

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An Army shirt
Etc!!
5. Work
Made it through another year of staff and clients and staff!! Lol!!
Still working hard and loving my job!!
Counseling-the best career for the introspective person

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6. Last but certainly not least-raising my babies!!
So while I am not proud of my lack of garden accomplishments or the books that weren’t read, I am very proud of my boys!! Throughout all of my adventures (disasters), they are beside me learning. Learning how to cook, sew, read, love, cry, struggle, fail and succeed!! They are growing up so fast and every future (more productive) year I can get that perfect garden, craft, decorated house, etc. but I won’t have back that time with the boys!! Cuddling, sleeping, loving, learning and growing!! This is what life is about! God, family, love, ambition, goals and setbacks!

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Here we go, year two of blogging! Here is to more of all of the above things!! Lets see where it takes me!! Any ideas??

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Not a Zen-ful runner? Me Either!!

This is so me!!

I understand the connection running has to mindfulness and meditation but I have not mastered that yet. Actually, I am not even close. If my iPod dies, I am shot as well. But, I will continue to practice running until I reach that zen place.

If you have any feedback on how to reach that Zen-ful place while running, please share!!

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